Over-Giving at Work Until You Run Dry
You volunteer for every extra task, cover for absent colleagues, and answer work messages long after hours — until you have become the person everyone leans on, while your own energy quietly runs down without anyone noticing.
You might notice
- You say “sure” to a new task before checking whether your schedule actually has room for it.
- You check work messages on your day off or after midnight, and feel anxious if you do not reply at once.
What generally helps
- Before accepting anything extra, ask yourself plainly: what will I delay or do worse if I take this on?
- Tie your decline to priorities, not to your personal capacity: “I am committed to shipping X this week, so I cannot take this on now.”
- Pick one specific hour each day after which work notifications are actually silenced, not just intended to be.
Source: Maslach Burnout Model (Maslach & Leiter) · General developmental guidance, not a diagnosis or a substitute for a professional.
If this pattern comes with recurring physical symptoms — headaches, disrupted sleep — or you have lost motivation even for work you used to enjoy, that is a good time to see a mental health professional or a physician.
Tools that may help now
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